Firstly, I would like to say that what Amy Chua said is not always true. There are in fact some Chinese parents who do not pressure their kids into perfection, and some Western parents who use that tactic.
However, some kids whose parents do not pressure them still performed well. In fact, they will be more motivated to learn, as they do not learn things as often as Chinese kids, and they will not grow tired of learning. Whereas, the Chinese kids are pressured into learning things and doing assessment papers everyday, so it is not surprising that they will feel tired of learning.
If one has the will to do something, he will have the ability to do it well. If one has the potential, yet made to study until he is tired of it, he will not take it seriously any more and "study for the sake of studying", without any improvement. This is what I call a huge waste.
However, some kids whose parents do not pressure them still performed well. In fact, they will be more motivated to learn, as they do not learn things as often as Chinese kids, and they will not grow tired of learning. Whereas, the Chinese kids are pressured into learning things and doing assessment papers everyday, so it is not surprising that they will feel tired of learning.
If one has the will to do something, he will have the ability to do it well. If one has the potential, yet made to study until he is tired of it, he will not take it seriously any more and "study for the sake of studying", without any improvement. This is what I call a huge waste.
Ask yourself, which is better: An hour of intense and serious studying, or five hours of studying blindly just to please others?
I feel that a more effective way of learning is to reward and not to punish. Reward the child for doing extra homework and studying well, instead of punishing him for not doing enough homework.
When I was younger, my parents often rewarded me with toys whenever I did well in exams. This encouraged me to study harder and and I excelled in my studies. However, whenever they punished me, I would feel extremely stressed and upset.
That is why when some kids in China are pushed to the extent, they might commit suicide, which explains why the suicide rate of children in China is on the rise. (excluding the fact that they have a growing population).
So, what the Chinese mothers are doing is not really right, but also not really wrong. I just want to say that this method does not work on everyone, and even if it does, he / she must not be pushed to the extent.
When I was younger, my parents often rewarded me with toys whenever I did well in exams. This encouraged me to study harder and and I excelled in my studies. However, whenever they punished me, I would feel extremely stressed and upset.
That is why when some kids in China are pushed to the extent, they might commit suicide, which explains why the suicide rate of children in China is on the rise. (excluding the fact that they have a growing population).
So, what the Chinese mothers are doing is not really right, but also not really wrong. I just want to say that this method does not work on everyone, and even if it does, he / she must not be pushed to the extent.
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